One of the goals I saw on several people’s 101 in 1001 lists was something called “50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind.” So of course I looked it up.
And then I decided I needed to answer the 50 questions as part of MY 101 in 1001
Because that’s how I am.
I actually went through them a week or so ago, and considered going back through and editing my answers. But then I decided- nope. They’re authentic. I’m keeping them 🙂
Anyhoo, the original questions were listed on a great site by Marc Chernoff.
I love these types of questionnaires, but at the same time, I often feel like the authors don’t take realistic roadblocks into account. Hence some of my tongue in cheek responses.
50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind
Because sometimes asking the right questions is the answer.
1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are? 25
2. Which is worse, failing or never trying? Failing. If I don’t try, I always have the hope that I would have succeeded. If I try and fail, I lose that hope
3. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do? Because life is hard. And living in society is hard. Conforming to society is a key element of survival.
4. When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done? No.
5. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world? The ongoing, relentless need for power and hatred.
6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich? Helping people feel good about themselves
7. Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing? I’m settling for what I’m doing in the hope it will eventually lead to doing what I believe in
8. If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently? I wouldn’t worry about how much debt I’m accruing
9. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken? I think I’ve controlled a degree of where I’m going, but not of how I’m getting there
10. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things? Doing the right things
11. You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire. They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend. The criticism is distasteful and unjustified. What do you do? Say something. Defend my friend in a way that’s respectful to everyone. It’s hard to respect and admire people who are so ready to be ugly about others
12. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be? Be the captain and navigator of your life course
13. Would you break the law to save a loved one? I don’t think anyone can really know the answer to this until/unless they’re placed in that situation
14. Have you ever seen insanity where you later saw creativity? No.
15. What’s something you know you do differently than most people? I know I think differently than most people. I have the ability to truly, empathically see things from multiple perspectives in ALMOST all situations.
16. How come the things that make you happy don’t make everyone happy? Because I’m me, and they’re them. An undifferentiated society would be a truly boring place to exist.
17. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back? Have my own place in a beach community. Money.
18. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of? I have a hard time letting go of the roads not taken.
19. If you had to move to a state or country besides the one you currently live in, where would you move and why? Somewhere on the east coast. Possibly back to Florida, but also been thinking about somewhere in the Washington, D.C. Area. There’s so much history and culture there.
20. Do you push the elevator button more than once? Do you really believe it makes the elevator faster? Sometimes. It’s not so much that I think it will go faster, but more that I think “Oh. Maybe he didn’t hear me. I should repeat myself just to be sure”
21. Would you rather be a worried genius or a joyful simpleton? A worried genius. I like knowing things
22. Why are you, you? Because. I am me, and you are you. It is what it is.
23. Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend? No. I’ve never felt that I lived up to my potential as a friend. I’m so lucky to have the sorts of friends that know me and accept me anyway
24. Which is worse, when a good friend moves away, or losing touch with a good friend who lives right near you? They both feel equally horrible
25. What are you most grateful for? That I haven’t given up
26. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones? My old memories have made me who I am, but they’re also what can hold me back. I would hate to not have the capacity to ever make a new memory
27. Is is possible to know the truth without challenging it first? Yes.
28. Has your greatest fear ever come true? Yes. Failure. But I guess my greatest fear beyond that would be never finding a meaningful life path. That challenge isn’t over until I’m dead.
29. Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset? Does it really matter now? Yes, I remember it. And yes, it still matters. The way I was treated imprinted on me, and took a little something away from me.
30. What is your happiest childhood memory? What makes it so special? Going to Disney. Because it’s such a huge part of who I am and how I think
31. At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive? Now. Going back to school. Discovering a subject I never would have imagined I would pursue, and absolutely loving everything I’m learning!
32. If not now, then when? Payday?
33. If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose? Hope
34. Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever? No. But I’ve been with someone, said nothing, and felt like it was the best TIME I’d ever had.
35. Why do religions that support love cause so many wars? Because religions don’t start wars. Power hungry men and their desperate interpretations of religions start wars
36. Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil? Yes.
37. If you just won a million dollars, would you quit your job? Without question or hesitation
38. Would you rather have less work to do, or more work you actually enjoy doing? More work I actually enjoy. I like getting paid to do things I like doing
39. Do you feel like you’ve lived this day a hundred times before? Sometimes.
40. When was the last time you marched into the dark with only the soft glow of an idea you strongly believed in? Pretty much every day. That soft glow is the one thing that gets me through most days. It’s what I call “hope”
41. If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today? I would stay with my family. There’s no question that the people I spend every day with, are the ones I will miss the most
42. Would you be willing to reduce your life expectancy by 10 years to become extremely attractive or famous? Yes. I’ve never wanted to live to be 100. I want to live the most life I can, with my body and faculties working at full capacity.
43. What is the difference between being alive and truly living? Being alive is a daily activity. Truly living is the highlights and big moments.
44. When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards, and just go ahead and do what you know is right? When you’re ready to face any potential consequences of your actions
45. If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake? Because not all lessons are positive. But all lessons ARE permanent.
46. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you? Let my personality shine, instead of holding everything so close to me
47. When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing? Right this very second
48. What do you love? Have any of your recent actions openly expressed this love? I love my family. I love being open to new ideas. I love the capacity to learn. I like to believe my actions always reflect these loves
49. In 5 years from now, will you remember what you did yesterday? What about the day before that? Or the day before that? No. but I’ll remember that I was in school and fighting for my future. Life isn’t about big moments all the time. That’s not sustainable. Life is about the day to day with people that matter, and if you’re lucky you get those big, memorable moments scattered throughout your life.
50. Decisions are being made right now. The question is: Are you making them for yourself, or are you letting others make them for you? I have always guided my own life. I may not have liked the outcomes of some of my choices, but I’ve had a remarkably large say in what I do. I’m lucky to have a family that supports (and expects) that. Any expectations that were placed on me, were placed BY me. Nobody else. Because I’m the one that has to live with the choices that I make.
Pretty excited that I’m crossing off a goal from my 101 in 1001 challenge!